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Breaking Up Doesn’t Have to Break You

Breaking up is painful even if you are the one initiating the break-up. Many people say that the thought of the actual break-up was one of their biggest fears, what to say, how to say it and when. Feeling bad for hurting the other party or your children. Fear of what might happen when you initiate a break-up coupled with your fears of finance, living arrangements and many[...]

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Who’s Afraid of Change?

At different times of our lives we can fear CHANGE because being separated from people or things which are familiar brings uncertainty and trepidation. A divorce can feel like one big scary life change, but only if you let it. Procrastinating the ‘change’ over years whilst running scenarios in your head increases your anxiety, sadness, frustration and fear. When you’re not happy it often brings other problems into[...]

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When Love Goes Wrong

Going through separation and divorce is stressful and can cost a small fortune.  Finally, there is a dedicated company and a small group of lawyers offering a better solution. Acting in cooperation with professional, independent law firms, Act4Tomorrow provides you with a fully supported separation service – and all for a set fee. The company is the dream of Alvia Turney, who, after her own turbulent and exorbitantly[...]

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The One Stop Shop

Unless you have actually been in the situation of a separation and divorce it is not truly impossible to fully understand how completely distressing, overwhelming and literally soul destroying this time in one’s life can be. Family and friends try and support you but often their best intentions of support simply fuel the animosity. Although everyone’s situation is personal and individual the system is not different for the[...]

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Separated Under One Roof

I come across many people, too many people, who repeat the same story. They tell me, ‘we are married but sleeping in separate rooms.’ Doesn’t this beg the question ‘what does being married mean to them and why are they staying together?’ I met a lady the other day who said she was married, yet for the past five years has slept in another bedroom from her husband.[...]

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Life Is Meant To Be Fun

When I was asked to write an article relating to FUN, I looked at my separation business and considered that living in an unhappy family situation impacts directly on everyone’s ability to have fun. My name is Alvia Turney, and my business Act4Tomorrow Separations Specialists is not an advocate for separation, it is an advocate for living your life with someone you love and who loves you. The[...]

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Industry Disrupter

The latest buzz word for companies who are working for a positive change in long-established industries for the betterment of the people are called INDUSTRY DISRUPTERS. I recently took a business trip to Sydney and am extremely proud to say that Act4Tomorrow Separation Specialists have been named an Industry Disrupter. I was positively and graciously received by an audience of Sydney solicitors and was asked by two of[...]

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If Your House Was On Fire

If your house was on fire, would you pour petrol on the fire to put it out? No, of course not! Throwing a courtroom drama into the mix of a separation can have the same effect as petrol to fire. Consider these two options: – Avoid paying high legal costs, with a fixed fee service and negotiate a settlement based on what you are legally entitled to without[...]

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Hindsight is 20/20 Vision

It’s often said that hindsight is 20/20 vision. Many people I have spoken to who have been through a separation and divorce, wish they had known earlier what they learnt after the process – and they say they would have done things differently. During a relationship break-up it can be difficult to remove our feelings. Fear, disappointment and anger cloud our ability to remain objective and fair. After[...]

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Handling the Heartache When Things Turn Sour

It is estimated that today, one in three marriages in Australia will end in divorce, and that’s in addition to the many other types of relationship break-ups that occur on a daily basis. Generally, the experience is incredibly emotional, time-consuming and expensive. Divorcing through the court process can take many months to conclude and can cost tens of thousands of dollars. The emotional cost on the couple, their[...]

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Easy Come Easy Go

Surely it would be better if couples adopted the saying ‘easy come easy go’ during their relationship break-up. If separation is going to happen, having a more ‘easy go’ attitude during the process will reduce the time in emotional heartache, animosity and consequently the financial spend. If children are involved, you will be giving them a positive example of how to handle change respectfully and productively.  Move on[...]

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Are You Ignoring What Is Right In Front of You?

Are you pretending that your relationship is not that bad? How good is it? 50% good and 50% bad? or is it better or worse? Do you dread going home? Are you ignoring what is right in front of you? At Act4Tomorrow Separation Specialists, we hear of couples who say ‘it was over many, many years before one of them finally called it off’.  Sleeping in separate rooms[...]

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All I Want For Christmas

All I want for Christmas…. Is to be happy  “The farmer gets a wife – yes fairy tales really do come true!” True Story supplied by Alvia Turney CEO of Act4Tomorrow Separations Specialist: This time last year, a past client of mine now, said to me “all I want for Christmas is to be happy.” Who would have known then that just one year later I am so[...]

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Agree to Disagree

How can you make a break-up easier on the children? Act4Tomorrow has recently noticed a positive trend from parents who want to work out their parenting plan amicably, putting the needs of the children first. Couples are agreeing to disagree when it comes to the decisions of shared care. Many wonderful parents are putting their differences aside, for a moment, to draw up a private parenting plan. Why?[...]

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It’s Mine

It’s Mine “It’s mine” are two words which come up during many separation discussions.  It is funny how (but not really) once the conversation of saying it is over, yesterday’s thoughts of ‘together’ and ‘we are one’ evaporate in an instance. It is fascinating to see how many seemingly fair, rational, caring people suddenly revert to a toddler’s mindset, with the same determination, when they demand ‘it’s mine’.[...]

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Be Involved In Things You’d Do For Free

If you were involved in a volunteer position you would pick something you were passionate about. You would love it so much that you would give your time for free. With a romantic relationship, you should be involved because you love it. Love is unconditional, otherwise it is conditional-love and that always comes at a high price –  your life. Love is something which should be given for[...]

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We Stopped When It Wasn’t Fun Anymore

‘We Stopped When It Wasn’t Fun Anymore’ – A close friend of mine said that was why they ended their relationship. What a fabulous, clean cut way to live; valuing your self-worth and achieving the ultimate goal of living a positive, happy life by participating only if the enjoyment is still present. Why do most people wait way past the expiry date of ‘it wasn’t fun anymore’, before[...]

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He/She Broke My Heart

When someone has decided that they no longer want to be in a relationship with you, it cuts deeply and the pain you feel is very physical. The grief from rejection can quite literally feel like a sharp pierce to your heart and the sadness all engulfing. Can you therefore claim that someone broke your heart? If you take a step back from the shock, from being surplus[...]

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Here We Go Again

Repeat, repeat when it should be delete. How many New Year’s resolutions fail, how many attempts to give up smoking, drinking or leave a toxic relationship end up starting all over again? Going back to the way they were with that sinking feeling of ‘here we go again’. Why do we do it? What is your repeat, repeat performace giving you, pleasure or pain coupled with a splash[...]

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It’s Not What You Want It’s What You Need

Childhood is probably the most significant time when we are being given a dose of what we need rather than what we want. Our lives, especially in the early days, is under the control of someone else. From being put to bed for an afternoon nap, being told you cannot go to certain events or hang out with certain people. The decision of what you need is not[...]

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